When we’re stressed out to the max, we tend to focus on just one thing. This one thing can be very big, or it can be very simple. However, the one thing that we put our focus on when we’re stressed isn’t the real cause of the stress. It’s a byproduct of our stress, which can be easy to deal with and handle. While this might not apply to anyone who has been diagnosed with anxiety problems, here are some of the things that we worry about needlessly, according to the Huffington Post.
1. Taking Time Off
A lot of people worry about taking too much time off of work – and if they can or should take off any time at all. Sometimes, depending on your financial situation and your employer, you can’t swing taking too much time away from work. And, the days of everyone in the workforce getting paid vacations are long over. Though that doesn’t mean that you should devote your life to work and become a workaholic, what it does mean is that you have to get creative with how much time you take off. You’ll be amazed what just the occasional day away from work can do for your mental health. So, don’t worry about taking that mental break day – it’s just a day.
2. People Judging You
Even if you say you’re not, there’s no denying that a good majority of the population worries about what others think about them. Whether it’s friends, family, lovers, coworkers, or strangers on the street, you’re worried about what they might think about you. It’s what stops a lot of people from doing what really makes them happy. Take a deep breath in and brace yourselves, readers, because the odds are that you are getting judged. According to the Huffington Post, one-third of people will like you, one-third won’t, and one-third won’t care about you or what you do. It’s easier said than done, but the easiest thing you can do is accept it and move on. The only thing that counts is that you like you.
3. What People Really Think
Insecurities about relationships are common; you wonder if your lover really loves you, you wonder if your parents are really proud of you, you wonder if your coworkers really like you, and slowly, you begin to second guess everyone in your inner circle. As a product of these insecurities, we try to shield ourselves. We try to act more confident than we are or we try to pull away from the relationships that might hurt us. We think that if people know us inside and out, flaws and all, that they’ll dislike us. This is another thing that’s easier said than done, but the best thing you can do is just slowly love yourself. The more that you love yourself, the more you’ll realize you’re someone people can love. The moment you realize that, you’ll second guess your relationships less and less.
4. Following Your Dreams
People have a million and one excuses for not following their dreams. The funds didn’t go through, life happened, we just never got around to it. The real reason why people don’t follow their dreams is because of fear. We’re afraid that we won’t succeed and that our heart will be broken. We’re afraid that it might come true – and then what will we have to dream about while life goes on? Truthfully, following your dreams is one of the easiest things that you can ever do. It takes hard work and determination, and it doesn’t happen overnight. But, making that decision to be happy and live your dream is the best decision that you’ll ever make. And, the only thing worse than trying and failing to reach your dream is never having tried at all.
5. Being Too Successful
Success means change in a positive direction, and a lot of people are afraid of the things that come with change. A lot of the time, fear lies in the relationship. We’re afraid that the more successful we get, the more we’re going to push away our existing circle of friends. Take a deep breath and relax. Your friends are your friends for a reason, and your success should make them just as happy as it makes you.
6. The Next Step
There’s always going to be a next step when it comes to living our lives. We become so attached to the life that we’ve built that changing it in any form seems scary and far more intimidating than it needs to be. We’re afraid of growth and of new experiences. We’re afraid of being held accountable. However, the only thing to fear more than that next big step is not taking any steps at all – deciding to take that next step will be the easiest thing you’ve ever done.