Every marriage is different. However, no matter how long you have been married or how old you are, it is true that a spouse never gets tired of feeling appreciated. Whether you and your spouse hardly ever fight or seem to live in a state of perpetual tension, here are 5 ways to show your spouse appreciation, improve your marriage and be happier – together.
1. Never Stop Saying “Thank You”
You and your spouse may have been together for two years or twenty years. Either way, it is very easy to get into a routine. Perhaps one of you always takes out the garbage and the other always does the dishes. No matter the routine, you should never stop thanking your spouse for the things they do around the house.
There are countless, day-to-day occurrences that warrant a simple “thank you” to your spouse. Show him/her appreciation and say it whenever you think it!
2. Be Affectionate
Physical touch triggers several chemical reactions in your brain – all positive. A simple, spontaneous kiss when you pass each other in the house or holding hands in the car can make you feel more connected to your spouse. Though, over time, some marriages can get into a routine, it is not always the smartest decision to stick to it. Showing your spouse affection is a very prominent way to show them appreciation.
3. THINK before you Speak
THINK is an acronym that can help you communicate more effectively with your spouse. According to AcronymFinder.com, THINK stands for: true, helpful, inspiring, necessary, kind.
Before you say something that may be controversial, THINK and ask yourself if the statement is true, if it is helpful to your spouse, if it is inspiring or uplifting, if it is necessary to discuss the topic and if it is a statement that will be perceived as kind.
4. Pick Your Battles Wisely
Using the THINK method, decide which incidences are worthy of fighting about and which are not. Perhaps instead of bickering about a light being left on, understand that your spouse may have been in a hurry, be forgiving and shut it off.
5. Never Go to Sleep Angry
If there is tension before bed, you are likely to sleep poorly and wake up with residual anger. By talking through issues before bed, you will sleep more soundly and, quite possibly, feel closer to your spouse in the morning.